With the New Year approaching, many will start looking at their relationship future, planning to find the “right one” or even making the decision to commit. Improve your own relationship for this New Year and get it started by being on the right foot.
Don’t rush into a relationship with just anyone. Give yourself time to go out and find the right person. instead of settling for the first person to come around, take your time and see who is out there for you. By taking some time to yourself to really think about your future and what you are looking for in a partner you won’t fall into the trap of looking for “the One”. YOU are the One. Expecting your partner to complete you can set you up for disappointment and can put a lot of strain on your relationship and your partner.
Take responsibility for where you are in your life but don’t blame yourself for not having a relationship or for losing one, but beware of your attitudes and choices. They will give you a clearer, more authentic sense of where you are in the present and where you are going or where you want to be going.
If you’re already in a relationship and it isn’t a happy one, ask yourself the difficult questions, what’s keeping you in the relationship? And, what are you getting out of it? Make the right choice and decision for you. You are the most important person in your life.
Stay positive. Look at what you do have rather than obsessing over what you don’t have. When you let go of the past, you can only open yourself up to what is to come in your future. Keep a positive outlook on your possibilities.
You can fall in love any time in your life. Don’t let the proverbial ‘tick-tock’ overwhelm you. We do have a limited amount of time to physically have children. But you don’t want to rush into a relationship that is not the right one just for this reason. Enrich your life in many other fulfilling things and look at having a family as a happy addition to your life rather than the be all and end all.
How can you make your current relationship better?
- Play. You may have already heard the saying, ‘couples that play together, stay together’. There is some truth in that. Have fun with your partner – go on some kind of adventure, whether it be an amusement park, rock climbing or just a hike in a park nearby.
- Laugh. Humor is known to be a key to relationship longevity. It benefits individuals and relationships as it relieves stress and helps defuse tension that might otherwise lead to conflict.
- Listen. More than just what hearing what another person is saying, listening involves investing the energy to understand and remember and to respond to what is being said.
- Love. Say ‘I love you’ often. Be affectionate with your partner. Both expressing and receiving messages of affection improves the health of close relationships.
- Communicate. Put away the cell phone and communicate face to face. Maintain that intimate relationship with close conversation. It’ll also help you ‘hear’ what your partner is saying.
- Forgive. Unfortunately, we sometimes hurt the ones we love the most, whether intentionally or accidentally. Resolve to let go of the hurt and forgive them.
- Understanding. Try to be more understanding of your partner’s faults. Cut back on the nagging. Stop yourself before a nagging comment and ask if it’s really worth an argument.
Be happy with yourself and you’ll find you will attract many possible romantic relationships if you’re single. Being happy with yourself will also have a positive impact on your current relationship if you’re already in one. Try some of these tips above to get your relationship on track for the New Year.
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